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Be a Woman…or a Mother…Best be Both

The gloves are OFF.  Well, one is.  This is still a much more polite fight than it needs to be.  However, there is one argument that I have heard – ad nauseum – and ironically it has come mostly from self-proclaimed feminists.  They cannot stand the fact that Palin might fall into a demanding job when she has KIDS who will suffer, for goodness sake.  They say she should be home with her kids. 

They have no right.

Most of us have to work.  We have to be away from our children each day, it’s a fact of life.  That work should be rewarding.  It’s a shame to put a high priority on something that doesn’t matter.  If she has to be at work, let her do this job.  She has a unique opportunity to help preserve the way of life that we Americans enjoy.  She may even have a chance to improve it.  As a mother, she would be shirking her duties if she did not take this job.  Her kids will be cared for; her husband has planned a leave of absence from his job, not to mention the nanny and the Secret Service and the kitchen staff.  Those children will enjoy opportunities we would sacrifice everything to provide for our children.  If I had an opportunity to sacrifice four years of quality time in the name of a brighter future for my children, I would jump on it.  Women have been taken from the home for less.  Historically, every time our country is struggling, the women have sacrificed greatly.  They have taken jobs, eaten less, worked late, learned skills, and sent the men they loved away to certain death.  History is asking no less of Sara Palin (o-kay, her husband gets to stay stateside). 

As I said, this argument is coming mostly from the mouths of feminists.  I know this, because they usually call her a hypocrite for having a career and being pro-life.  That is the mark of a feminist.  They are effectively saying that once a woman becomes a mother, she has no role outside her home.  She has no skills to offer but diapering and kissing skinned knees.  She has no voice.  What a message to send our daughters!  I want my daughters to understand that becoming a mother is the gateway to a life beyond their wildest dreams.  They will be mothers first, yes, but they are brilliant girls with everything to offer and mothering teaches.  Mothering offers wisdom.  A mother still gets to be a woman.  For brilliant girls to grow up and become mothers, but not women, is a disservice.

Mothering should be a blessing.  It is a blessing.  It should enrich our lives, but it should never take our lives.  We women are the soul of this nation and it is true, there is nothing we cannot do.  Whether it is staying home to kiss scrapes, diaper, and read fairy tales (a life I covet, by the way), or having a career and stealing precious moments to watch our children grow, we should be able to do this without the guilt.  I know stay at home moms have guilt for not contributing to the household income.  They feel like working moms look down on them for “just being a mom.”  Working moms are riddled with guilt every morning when they drive away from their beloved.   They feel like their priorities are dubious.  The reality is, though, every mother is doing the best she can in different circumstances.  Remember, there was a time that staying home was necessary but it didn’t involve quality time and Gymboree dates.  There was always work to be done around the home and not enough time.  Now, stay at home moms are super women who raise fantastic kids and provide great service to our society through the children they raise and the tireless hours of volunteering.  Now is a different time.  Staying home is a luxury that comes with great sacrifice.  Life is not always stable.  Our economy has grown to two-income proportions. 

This is a new age.  There are new rules.  Being all that we can be will never make us less.  There is not even room for such implication.


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